Time Magazine Breastfeeding Cover Provokes Harsh Judgment…and Inspires My Own Magazine Covers

By now, you’ve surely seen the new Time magazine cover featuring a sensational picture of a woman nursing her nearly four-year-old son and the provocative question, “ARE YOU MOM ENOUGH?”  It’s meant to be shocking and it is — but more than anything, it encourages people to once again judge well-meaning moms.  From the way we dress our kids and ourselves to how we feed them, everything is scrutinized under the media’s microscope in hopes of sparking debate and driving readers to their sites, magazine stands, what-have-you; never mind that their shameless quest for attention leaves well-intentioned and loving moms feeling insulted, ashamed and inadequate — when all most any of us wants is to raise happy children the best way we know how, ideally without everyone telling us we’re doing it wrong (especially because we care so darn much, making us even more sensitive to criticism).  Meanwhile, if a dad is just willing to hang out with his kid, he’s hailed for being the best parent ever.

“Does your husband change diapers?” my hairstylist asked the other day.

“Um, yeah,” I responded with a look that said, “DUH.”

“What a wonderful dad!” she gushed, adding:  “My son changes his daughter’s diapers, too.  I’m so proud of him.”

Seriously?  I don’t know; perhaps I’m the weird one for expecting my husband to change his OWN KIDS’ DIAPERS.  Regardless, it’s that double standard that inspired me to create these Time covers imagining how the editors would tackle similar parenting issues when discussing moms versus dads.

A peek:

Not that I’m bitter or anything.  Hmpf.

Can’t we all just support each other and take pictures of our babies in ridiculous baby hats and share them on the Internet for each others’ amusement?  Is that too much to ask?

Candy Kirby is the founder of The Laughing Stork and a professional fun-maker who will never stop chasing her lifelong dream: to find the Pomeranian or porn star after whom her parents must have named her. She also used to be a staff writer for the soap opera, The Bold and the Beautiful, where she penned many scripts featuring prolonged heated stares and countless “Who’s the Daddy?” story lines. Candy lives in Los Angeles with her husband, two young kids and three rescue Persian cats who enjoy blanketing every inch of the house in kitty fur.


  1. Wenmei

    May 10, 2012 at 10:31 pm

    AMEN! Now let me go find a hat to put on one of my children…

    • Candy

      May 11, 2012 at 12:11 pm

      Excellent! I just bought a fedora for Drew; embarrassing pictures to come.

      • Mrs. Harrison Ford

        May 12, 2012 at 7:05 am

        Is it an Indiana Jones style fedora?

  2. Newb

    May 11, 2012 at 6:17 am

    Great article Candy. It’s really not a competition people. And I always loved when I went out and people asked me who was watching my kids – “Uh, their FATHER. Duh” which would get my husband huge praise. We really need to just focus on raising our own children and not worry about what everyone else is doing. Wait, kids are supposed to wear hats?? Crap!

    • Candy

      May 11, 2012 at 12:13 pm

      Oh yes, I’ve heard that one, too. As far as the hats go, it’s never too late to make your kids wear them. You have teenagers, right? They would look adorable in the bear-eared variety!

      • Newb

        May 12, 2012 at 8:52 am

        I’m lucky to get my 12 year old to brush his teeth and wear pants. The effort to get him to wear a hat might be the end of both of us.

  3. Deeva

    May 11, 2012 at 10:23 am


    • Candy

      May 11, 2012 at 12:15 pm

      Why, thank you, Deeva.

      (Your check is in the mail.)

  4. Paola

    Jul 9, 2012 at 6:04 am

    Very well done! I am watching the fight agains non-nursing mothers for some time now and more and more it is turning judgemental and a doctrine, something you have to do or else you are not a good mother. how can women turn agains each other in such a way? Breast feeding is good, feeding bottle is also good. Sleeping in the parent’s bed is good, sleeping in the nursery is also good. When do we finally stop making judgments of people in their most vulnerable time, which is the time of pregnany and birth.