My Tale of “Whoa — You’re Putting Me on Bed Rest?!”

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Warning:  Column may contain strong or potentially confusing language such as “vaginal heaviness.”   It is important to note this language does not refer to my vagina’s weight, or her need to go on Jenny Craig, but rather an uncomfortable feeling down there.  This kind of reader understanding is advised.

A few weeks ago I started experiencing vaginal pain and heaviness.  I’m sure I do not need to explain what that is to you.  Nothing debilitating, just mildly disconcerting.  I mentioned it to my doctor at last week’s routine appointment and she was not concerned, chalking it up to the aches and pains common in second pregnancies, especially because I did not fall into any of the major risk factor categories for preterm labor.  “Do you want to schedule a cervical check, just for peace of mind?” she asked nonchalantly.  I shrugged in agreement.  It was such a casually made decision, that if you’d been watching us from afar, you’d have thought we were discussing whether to get guacamole with our chips.

Fast forward to yesterday afternoon just minutes after my ultrasound, with my doctor literally SHOVING me out the door and demanding I get to the hospital’s Labor and Delivery ward to be monitored immediately.

“Can I go home first and –”

“NOW,” she barked, the door hitting me in the back.

Turns out, my cervix was short and beginning to thin out, putting me at high risk for premature labor.  NOT a good thing when you’re only 26 weeks pregnant.

I sat in my car, which I just got back from the repair shop after more than three weeks of frustrating delays, outside of the doctor’s office and cried.  I was scared.  I called Mr. Candy, who was home watching Skye, and then my mom in hopes of calming down before I hit the road.  But you know that annoying reflex that makes you cry even more when you start talking?  Yeah, I have it.  Ten-fold.

The tears continued to flow, despite my best efforts to buck up, as the resident at the hospital confirmed what my doctor had seen.  The nervous, uncertain resident who shakily stuck an ultrasound up my vagina (have I mentioned how heavy it’s been?) and stuttered, “Yeah, yeah, I agree with your doctor.  Not good.”  Quite the confidence inspirer, this resident.  Even my gay best friend knows his way around vaginas better than this guy.  I was on the verge of giggling through my tears when –

“You’re going to be here all night, maybe weeks.  The perinatologist will see you tomorrow, but I’m sure he’ll say you have to be on bed rest for the remainder of your pregnancy.”

Whatchoo talkin’ ’bout, Resident?

“That means I just can’t carry my daughter up and down the stairs?”

“That means you can only leave your bed to go to the bathroom.  If we let you go home.”

Okay, you’re welcome to get that shaky ultrasound out of my vagina now, Skippy, before I push it out with a SOB.

They aren’t sure why my cervix is playin’ me like this.  Stress and overexertion?  My regular doctor thinks they played a large part, but the perinatologist begs to differ:  “Nope.  No way.”  The good news is, Baby Freedom looks terrific — big, even — and I am not having any contractions and Mr. Candy has been able to rearrange his work schedule to look after Miss Skye.  Not to mention the hospital serves amazing fresh-out-of-the-oven chocolate chip cookies.  The bad news is my cervix is dangerously short (.8 – 1 cm.* when it should be at least 3) and “unzipping,” as Resident Skippy eloquently put it, so I have to get painful steroid shots (ME:  Omigod, that hurt more than I even expected.  NURSE [REMOVING NEEDLE FROM MY BRUISED THIGH]:  Yeah, I wouldn’t be able to handle it) to mature Baby Freedom’s lungs should he decide to make an early entrance.  Plus, and this is really killing me, I cannot do anything for the next 8-14 weeks in fear of jump-starting labor.  The thought of not being able to play with Skye as I would like, or put her to bed as I do every night, or really take care of her at all, is breaking my heart into a million pieces.  Not how I’d imagined spending our last months together before the baby arrives, that’s for sure.  Every time she and her dad visit me in the hospital, she reaches out for me to carry her and all I can do is sit here in my tiny bed and shake my head, hoping I can mollify her with Barney videos on my computer instead.  When they leave, I blow her kisses with a big smile on my face — and break down into tears as soon as the door closes.  Yeah, again with the tears.  Hell, I haven’t cried this much since watching Steel Magnolias for the five-hundredth time last week.

I can tell you a lot of things race through your mind when a doctor says you’ll be confined to a bed for at least two months.  Not only the concern for your toddler and unborn child, but also utterly absurd flashes of panic.  Like, Whoa, my roots are going to be hideous in the baby delivery pictures!  I wonder if my colorist does housecalls?

Tomorrow morning, they’re going take a peek at my cervix again.  If it hasn’t gotten worse, I can go home and crawl into my own bed.  Hallelujah.  Not that I don’t love the hospital’s plastic pillows and the attached monitor digging into my side, of course, but there is no place like home.  But if it has gotten worse…?  At least TWO MORE WEEKS IN THE HOSPITAL.

Two.  Weeks.  At least.

In which case, I will have to actually resign myself to this place and ask my husband to bring deodorant.  Because judging from the number of times the nurse asked me if I was going to take a shower today, my wiping-the-hand-sanitizer-under-my-pits routine ain’t cutting it.  (True story.)

*Resident Skippy got it all wrong. The perinatologist clarified it’s actually 1.8cm. Just a slight difference. *Sigh*

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Candy Kirby is the founder of The Laughing Stork and a professional fun-maker who will never stop chasing her lifelong dream: to find the Pomeranian or porn star after whom her parents must have named her. She also used to be a staff writer for the soap opera, The Bold and the Beautiful, where she penned many scripts featuring prolonged heated stares and countless “Who’s the Daddy?” story lines. Candy lives in Los Angeles with her husband, two young kids and three rescue Persian cats who enjoy blanketing every inch of the house in kitty fur. For more of Candy's nonsense, check out her personal Twitter, The Laughing Stork's Twitter and The Laughing Stork's Facebook page.

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15 Comments

  1. The ZB

    Mar 17, 2011 at 11:26 pm

    My heart aches for you. (I thought about saying “heart and vagina” but I don’t know you well enough, aside from the site-creeping. Nothing personal.) I’m sorry the resident probing your heavy vaj with the ultrasound was the opposite of comforting, and that the words “Yeah, I wouldn’t be able to handle it” were meant to make you feel better. You might consider punching her in the whatever’s-level-with-the-bed next time you see her. Best wishes.

  2. Eize

    Mar 18, 2011 at 12:07 am

    I’m sorry to hear that, Candy.

  3. Lindsey

    Mar 18, 2011 at 5:59 am

    I’m sure you’re miserable – sending good thoughts your way, hoping your va-jay-jay zips itself back up soon!

  4. Deeva

    Mar 18, 2011 at 6:09 am

    I have alot of friends who’ve gone through similar things with their pregnancies and I can tell you if you’re not contracting that is a HUGE relief. I know it’s not much cosolation right now but you will all be okay!! Sending good thoughts and prayers to you and Freedom.

  5. Newb

    Mar 18, 2011 at 6:32 am

    Well that certainly explains a couple of the comments from that last post. Funny how you can be a grown woman and still need your mommy, isn’t it? My heart breaks for you – for you missing Skye and Mr. Candy, for your worry, for your boredom, for your lost last few months with your baby girl, and for everything else that’s going on in your life. Am praying for you and for Mr. Candy – you are lucky to have such a great hubby. Get better soon Candy.

  6. Mrs. Harrison Ford

    Mar 18, 2011 at 8:06 am

    Jeez! Just when you get your car back! Stupid thin cervix! Just think, it’s the only thing you don’t want on your body to be thin; except for your boobs, that is. Ok, so that was my attempt at humor.

    I will send you extra pics of cats in hats and other good stuff in an attempt to increase the thickness of your cervix. Good thoughts are also coming your way.

    I’m always jealous of the women who look better than I do after they’ve given birth! I’m sure you will still be one of these, even with the roots!

  7. elisa

    Mar 18, 2011 at 8:12 am

    Nooooooo! Dear Candy, I have no words and you must be devastated and extremly worried. So listen: be brave, be strong, stay positive. Prayers and good vibes are on your way from family, friends and avid readers. Tough times are ahead, but two months is nothing compared to a lifetime of happiness with your family (until both your kids reach that age when they demand to be able to date, a car and money… you know exactly what I mean). Lots of love and my best wishes.

  8. Mr. Candy

    Mar 18, 2011 at 3:06 pm

    Newb,

    Please forward your address so I can send you your check.

    Mr. Candy “Great Hubby”

  9. Candy

    Mar 18, 2011 at 5:08 pm

    I cannot lie — Mr. Candy has been AWESOME. And the sexy nurse’s uniform he wears is just the icing on the cake.

    Thanks for the well wishes, everyone. Really appreciate it. I’m finally home, which has gone a long way in lifting my spirits.

    xoxo,

    Candy

  10. Amanda

    Mar 18, 2011 at 10:21 pm

    My family and I are thinking good thoughts for you and Baby Freedom, and Skye and Mr Candy, too.

  11. Debutante

    Mar 20, 2011 at 2:22 pm

    Candy- Hope you feel better soon. Try to ENJOY the time spent doing nothing. Relax, watch trashy TV and read trashy books and eat lots of cookies ! We’re all thinking good thoughts for you !!!

  12. Deeva

    Mar 21, 2011 at 12:34 pm

    I am so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you Candy!! On the bright side this means more time to spend with your Laughing Stork family!! ;-)

  13. Becky

    Mar 21, 2011 at 6:40 pm

    I was in your exact boat last summer. I was 30 weeks pregnant with my second daughter and put on bedrest for the remainder of my pregnancy for my short cervix. I made it to 36 weeks 6 days and Louise Adele was born a strapping 7 lbs 11 oz. I had to get the steroid shots as well and also have a toddler at home. I can COMPLETELY commisserate with you. You will get through this and I’m kind of convinced that our bodies know what they’re doing and if you’ve already had one healthy baby I’m sure this pregnancy will go just as smoothly (invest in Netflix…it will be your savior…Doc Martin is on instant and really good)

  14. Mama2000

    Mar 21, 2011 at 8:14 pm

    Hang in there! I went into labor at 31 weeks during my first pregnancy, but after doses of indocin, and of course the steriods (is Baby2000 forever disqualified from competing in the olympics?), she was born at 38 weeks. It’s probably harder with a baby already, but my one recommendation for surviving bedrest is Magnum P.I. Seriously.

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