Comments on: It’s My Meltdown, and I’ll Cry If I Want To http://thelaughingstork.com/2009/10/its-my-meltdown-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/ Fri, 19 Mar 2010 02:21:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: mama c-ta! http://thelaughingstork.com/2009/10/its-my-meltdown-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-4629 mama c-ta! Fri, 30 Oct 2009 00:38:21 +0000 http://thelaughingstork.com/?p=8746#comment-4629 the stress is stressful! but there's no excuse for an ugly nursing bra - bella materna makes lovely ones as does honey milk, hot milk and cache coeur. evymama.ca is a good place to start browsing for pretty things. after all, the world health organization recommends breastfeeding beyond two years. who in their RIGHT MIND could go two years without a pretty bra? the stress is stressful! but there’s no excuse for an ugly nursing bra – bella materna makes lovely ones as does honey milk, hot milk and cache coeur. evymama.ca is a good place to start browsing for pretty things. after all, the world health organization recommends breastfeeding beyond two years. who in their RIGHT MIND could go two years without a pretty bra?

]]> By: Jess http://thelaughingstork.com/2009/10/its-my-meltdown-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-4625 Jess Thu, 29 Oct 2009 18:07:19 +0000 http://thelaughingstork.com/?p=8746#comment-4625 Yes, exactly. I had taken my son on a vacation which of course threw of his schedule. He was crying and screaming and wouldn't stop...I was so tired and overwhelmed, I started crying, too. Luckily my mother used her supermom powers and managed to appear just at that moment to reassure me that he was fine and that's what people call a tantrum. Whoops. Yeah, she was right. Hooray for grandmothers with amazing timing. I have no magic fix for your crying baby, but I do know that the Mommy obsession is a phase. Then comes the Daddy obsession, then back to Mom, then by the time the kid is a teenager, he wants nothing to do with either of you. Yes, exactly. I had taken my son on a vacation which of course threw of his schedule. He was crying and screaming and wouldn’t stop…I was so tired and overwhelmed, I started crying, too. Luckily my mother used her supermom powers and managed to appear just at that moment to reassure me that he was fine and that’s what people call a tantrum. Whoops. Yeah, she was right. Hooray for grandmothers with amazing timing.

I have no magic fix for your crying baby, but I do know that the Mommy obsession is a phase. Then comes the Daddy obsession, then back to Mom, then by the time the kid is a teenager, he wants nothing to do with either of you.

]]> By: Newb http://thelaughingstork.com/2009/10/its-my-meltdown-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-4622 Newb Thu, 29 Oct 2009 14:06:26 +0000 http://thelaughingstork.com/?p=8746#comment-4622 I remember one very cold winter morning (we lived in the middle of the country up in Canada with no family or friends close by)I was sitting in a chair in our living room watching my husband leave for work. My three month old daughter had been up half the night and I was coming down with the flu and literally felt like I could NOT manage an entire day with just her and I. He walked over to where I was sitting with tears silently streaming down my face, kissed me good bye and left for work. Just left us alone. No comment on my obvious state of distress.Just went to work like nothing was wrong. There is nothing in the world as hard as being a mother. That was 12 years ago and my feeling of being overwhelmed is just as clear now as it was then. Hang in there, Candy. This too will pass. I remember one very cold winter morning (we lived in the middle of the country up in Canada with no family or friends close by)I was sitting in a chair in our living room watching my husband leave for work. My three month old daughter had been up half the night and I was coming down with the flu and literally felt like I could NOT manage an entire day with just her and I. He walked over to where I was sitting with tears silently streaming down my face, kissed me good bye and left for work. Just left us alone. No comment on my obvious state of distress.Just went to work like nothing was wrong. There is nothing in the world as hard as being a mother. That was 12 years ago and my feeling of being overwhelmed is just as clear now as it was then. Hang in there, Candy. This too will pass.

]]> By: Candy http://thelaughingstork.com/2009/10/its-my-meltdown-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-4618 Candy Thu, 29 Oct 2009 04:30:11 +0000 http://thelaughingstork.com/?p=8746#comment-4618 You all rock. It's reassuring to hear from others who have experienced similar frustration -- and lived to tell the tale! We wondered the same, Wordfiend, but no fever thankfully. Just an exhausted baby trying to readjust, I think. After I wrote this column last night/morning, she ended up sleeping through the night. Of course. Now we just need to work on those daytime naps... xoxo, Candy You all rock. It’s reassuring to hear from others who have experienced similar frustration — and lived to tell the tale!

We wondered the same, Wordfiend, but no fever thankfully. Just an exhausted baby trying to readjust, I think. After I wrote this column last night/morning, she ended up sleeping through the night. Of course. Now we just need to work on those daytime naps…

xoxo,

Candy

]]> By: Wordfiend http://thelaughingstork.com/2009/10/its-my-meltdown-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-4614 Wordfiend Wed, 28 Oct 2009 23:01:38 +0000 http://thelaughingstork.com/?p=8746#comment-4614 Is she running a fever? Could be ear infection. Our eldest seemed to develop ear infections almost every time we traveled. I think it was because of the changes in air pressure and disrupted routines. Is she running a fever? Could be ear infection. Our eldest seemed to develop ear infections almost every time we traveled. I think it was because of the changes in air pressure and disrupted routines.

]]> By: momma puppet http://thelaughingstork.com/2009/10/its-my-meltdown-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-4612 momma puppet Wed, 28 Oct 2009 19:44:39 +0000 http://thelaughingstork.com/?p=8746#comment-4612 Keep telling yourself, "I am not alone." You have many moms in your corner, rooting you on. This child rearing stuff aint no picnic, but, luckily, the good times far outway the difficult. I have spent several nights rocking or pacing w/ my daughter in the middle of the night (usually when hubs is away on biz and there is absolutely no break in sight!), crying and repeating, "I can do this. This too shall pass. Many have done it before me and many will do it after me. I can do this. Tomorrow will be a better day..." There is no shame in tears, frustration, anger, you name it. We love you! Keep telling yourself, “I am not alone.” You have many moms in your corner, rooting you on. This child rearing stuff aint no picnic, but, luckily, the good times far outway the difficult.

I have spent several nights rocking or pacing w/ my daughter in the middle of the night (usually when hubs is away on biz and there is absolutely no break in sight!), crying and repeating, “I can do this. This too shall pass. Many have done it before me and many will do it after me. I can do this. Tomorrow will be a better day…”

There is no shame in tears, frustration, anger, you name it. We love you!

]]> By: Cowgirl in the Sand http://thelaughingstork.com/2009/10/its-my-meltdown-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-4610 Cowgirl in the Sand Wed, 28 Oct 2009 15:33:19 +0000 http://thelaughingstork.com/?p=8746#comment-4610 Virtual hugs from another mom who totally understands how you feel. Don't feel pressured to be smiley and chirpy and pretend that everything is easy. Taking care of a baby is HARD, and allowing yourself to admit that and take care of yourself doesn't make you any less amazing of a mother. In fact, it makes you better. And if it makes you feel any less alone, I spent Monday crying all day while my overtired baby screamed at the top of her lungs because she couldn't/wouldn't sleep. Yes, we're using the modified "cry it out" method, where MOM cries until she's drained. And yes, this is a stage that Skye will grow out of. And once she settles back into a rhythm, she'll change it again. This is the fun of babies...they keep us on our toes! Luckily we're all nimble enough to handle it. Virtual hugs from another mom who totally understands how you feel. Don’t feel pressured to be smiley and chirpy and pretend that everything is easy. Taking care of a baby is HARD, and allowing yourself to admit that and take care of yourself doesn’t make you any less amazing of a mother. In fact, it makes you better.

And if it makes you feel any less alone, I spent Monday crying all day while my overtired baby screamed at the top of her lungs because she couldn’t/wouldn’t sleep. Yes, we’re using the modified “cry it out” method, where MOM cries until she’s drained.

And yes, this is a stage that Skye will grow out of. And once she settles back into a rhythm, she’ll change it again. This is the fun of babies…they keep us on our toes! Luckily we’re all nimble enough to handle it.

]]> By: Eize http://thelaughingstork.com/2009/10/its-my-meltdown-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-4608 Eize Wed, 28 Oct 2009 15:03:39 +0000 http://thelaughingstork.com/?p=8746#comment-4608 The barista should give you a free pastry while s/he's at it, too. :) The barista should give you a free pastry while s/he’s at it, too. :)

]]> By: Ailen http://thelaughingstork.com/2009/10/its-my-meltdown-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-4607 Ailen Wed, 28 Oct 2009 13:41:13 +0000 http://thelaughingstork.com/?p=8746#comment-4607 I am going through the same thing right now! We took our 3+ month old on a business trip to Atlanta for a week and his 7-hours-of-sleep-at-a-time have turned into, 5, then 4, and last night...3. I think it's payback for making him sleep in the unstylish hotel crib. I am going through the same thing right now! We took our 3+ month old on a business trip to Atlanta for a week and his 7-hours-of-sleep-at-a-time have turned into, 5, then 4, and last night…3. I think it’s payback for making him sleep in the unstylish hotel crib.

]]> By: jaydens mommy http://thelaughingstork.com/2009/10/its-my-meltdown-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-4606 jaydens mommy Wed, 28 Oct 2009 12:25:53 +0000 http://thelaughingstork.com/?p=8746#comment-4606 i know how u feel :( . my son is 21 months and has never slept through the night. screams for hours. gave up the pacifer at 8 months on his own. i work at 8am. looks like im baked every morning. lol lol. after a couple nights of crying im cryiong with him. his doctor says oh thats normal. my response "oh would u like to take him for a couple nights and see how normal it is". lol. at least u have mr candy to help u. im a single mom. fun fun. lol. skye is such a cutie :) beautiful smile. the smile alwasy makes everything else disappear. i know how u feel :( . my son is 21 months and has never slept through the night. screams for hours. gave up the pacifer at 8 months on his own. i work at 8am. looks like im baked every morning. lol lol. after a couple nights of crying im cryiong with him. his doctor says oh thats normal. my response “oh would u like to take him for a couple nights and see how normal it is”. lol. at least u have mr candy to help u. im a single mom. fun fun. lol. skye is such a cutie :) beautiful smile. the smile alwasy makes everything else disappear.

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